in respone to Corrie's blog (which you can read by clicking on the link to the right) I have decided that a little more time needs to be spent on the controversial topic of Junior/Senior. More speicifcally, the topic of a guy and a girl going together even if they aren't romantically attached.
I don't know about you, but over my (highschool) years I definitely kept it to myself that I wanted specific guys to ask me to dances. And when I say guys, I mean that that number would fluxuate between 1 and 2. I would hope beyond hope that somehow this guy would get it inside of his head to ask me and, of course, we would have a great time together.
In my early years, I had no problem with asking guys. I was literally fearless. This eventually caught up to me, though, and the rejection that I felt let me know loud and clear that I wouldn't step out again in that area because it just wasn't worth it. Hence, I'm making my first trip to Wrigley field on the infamous April 14th occassion this year.
But let's forget about now.....I'm pretty sure that my hope endurance started in the eighth grade, because something that I actually hope for happened.
Picture this: student council dance, LMS Multi-Purpose Room, low lights, loud music, cheap cookies and generic soda. I liked this guy for 3 years-no kidding, 3 years! I don't know how I was still hopeful after that. I remember that it was the last dance of the year before we made the magical journey into highschool. I also remember that I was standing within my group of friends, drinking soda, and looking at this scrawny eighth grader that was standing in his group of friends twenty feet away, drinking soda, and looking at me.
This was the game we played in middle school-we could flirt with each other, but it didn't really mean anything because no one was old enough to do anything about it. I kept looking up and he was looking at me.
Then it happened.
The next time that I looked up, this kid was halfway across the floor, headed straight for me! I looked down again quickly and sipped my soda. Suddenly, I saw a pair of shoes standing right in front of me. I looked up.
"Emily, do you want to dance?"
Thus, even though my interest in the scrawny eighth grader (who eventually became a lanky high schooler) faded, my hope for guys acting exactly the way that I thought they would inside my head was fueled for the next three years at least. I acted out on this belief; I asked guys to dances only expecting them to say yes. After 3 rejections I was done. I decided that I would be fine with just going with my friends.
Somewhere within that time, I decided that I was okay on my own. It wasn't just all my doing; I found my niche in the area of leadership and found my confidence in an area that didn't hurt me when I asserted it.
During a discussion that was led with Dr. Hartley, we were asked the question: Do you feel bound by any stereotypes within our society? I immediately raised my hand and said that I felt bound by a stereotype in the Christian subculture: women being in leadership positions. This eventually led to the fact that guys tend not to ask out girls that are super confident. Also, the guys in the discussion elaborated on the fact that most guys think that quiet girls want to be pursued and that confident girls do not. To that I promptly replied, "Well, I sure hope that I can still be pursued!"
Dr. Hartley, in response, said: "My wife was a spiritual leader on campus. If someone would have said spiritual and Brian Hartley in the same sentence, they would have laughed. My wife helped me in so many areas. I think that the women who are confident and who are in leadership are some of the most attractive women on campus."
This is my beef with the whole dating situation in general.
But let's be honest-this is just Junior Senior!
Should guys have to know what is going on inside of Corrie's head? No.
Should they be afraid to ask her to go? No!
I really think that Corrie should go with a date. I also think that the first guy that asks her should not have been the only one that was thinking about asking her. Because let's be honest, out of all the guys that actually want to go to Junior Senior, they have to think about fun people to go with.
Corrie is one of the most fun people that I know.
Corrie-I'm glad that you're still holding out. We're in the same place, and you give me hope.
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2 comments:
you are amazing. i appreciate this blog. however, i do wish that you were going to junior senior, it would make the whole night much more fun. but alas, that will not be happening, and i do not entirely blame you, but primarily the institution itself.
yes i did catch that and i thought that it was rather weird, but didn't think too much of it cause i didn't think you meant anything negative by the blog as a whole.
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